Wow, I remember when I had well over 300 + days to go, and now I am down to 30! Yikes! I am feeling pretty good at the moment. I have a bit of mixed feelings though. I am anxious, excited, nervous and a little bit stressed. The stress comes from inconsiderate people that are causing unnecessary drama! Also, stress comes from the people who have not turned in the pre-stamped RSVP postcard. I have heard it ALL! 

 1. “I didn’t know we were supposed to send that back in” (I guess they didn’t read the note that basically says MAIL THE REPLY or we will consider you as DECLINED!)

 2. “Well, I just assumed you knew we were coming”. (Oh REALLY? I guess I am supposed to be okay with having to maybe pay for ASSUMED GUEST!)
(or this one, that really pisses me off).

3. “Oh, we lost our invite. Just put us down for 3”. (How ABOUT – NO!)

People, people, people. Let’s have at least a little bit of respect for the bride/groom/payee that has spent money on invitations and stamps and for EVEN inviting you to the wedding! That is a privilege!

 So anyway, back to my being excited about 30 days!! Yippee!!! The thought of being this man’s WIFE, takes the stress away of all the nonsense! I am TRULY living my fairytale!! I still get tingles when he walks through the door at night with our son. I still blush when he stares at me. I am in LOVE!!! YAYY!! And that is the most important thing!!

I’ll meet you at the alter my darling!!!!!

Next…getting ready to prepare for our marriage license application!!! Yayyy!!!

 

 

 

 

My shower was amazing! I had so much fun! the decor was great, the food and cupcakes were awesome and my guests had a great time. I loved everything about this day. I love my mom and my bridesmaids, they did an awesome job! Here are a few pictures.

Alex Tebow designed my invites..her blog:

http://www.alextebowblog.com/2010/04/brandis-bridal-shower.html

I am so excited, and nervous at the same time. I have no idea where the shower is. My wonderful friends/bridesmaids and mom, planned it all and I am anxious for it all to begin! As I sit here the morning of my shower, I am reflecting on so many things! I can't believe this is all happening! I'm so happy and excited to be able to just enjoy TODAY. Being in a room full of the most important women in my life, means so much to me. I can't wait to share pictures of this event!

I need to catch up! Everything that is highlighted in bold, has been done, or is being worked on..I still have a lot to do!

1 - 2 Months Before

Have your first bridal gown fitting. Remember to bring stockings, shoes, the appropriate bra, hair accessories, jewelry, a camera, and your mom or best friend.

Finalize ceremony readings and songs, and review with performers.

Order liquor/beverages not handled by caterer.

Meet with your officiant to finalize the ceremony, including 
attendant formations.


Begin writing your vows if applicable.


Begin writing thank-you notes for bridal showers and early wedding gifts, and update your registry at the same time.



 Research where to get your marriage license.

Prepare a photo and video shot list, naming important family 
members and guests.

Begin whitening your teeth for your wedding day.



 Consider liability insurance for your reception location.



 

2 - 3 Months Before



  Finalize guest list and submit invitations to calligrapher.



  Book makeup artist and hairstylist.



  Order your wedding favors.



  Candles, baskets, ring pillow… it’s time to start browsing and purchase wedding accessories!



  Consider signing up for dance classes.



  Schedule your last tasting and finalize menu.



  Find gifts for each other, your attendants, your shower hostess, and your parents.



  Confirm tuxes have been ordered for groom/groomsmen.



  Prep for your honeymoon – do you have everything you need?



  Choose your getaway! Finalize wedding transportation.



  Take care of business: Look into joint bank accounts, insurance, and merging your money.


Select your music for the ceremony, cocktail hour, and reception, and review with musicians, singers.



  Check that there are enough options left on your registry, and update your wedding website.



  Finalize rehearsal dinner plans and order rehearsal invitations, menus, table numbers, escort cards, and any other stationery accessories.



  Mail invitations eight weeks before your wedding day.
 -I still have 20 more to print, assemble and mail out! yikes, only 2 weeks before the rsvp due date!

I have ^ this many days to go, and I am just about ready to pull my hair out.
My advice to future brides wiith huge families - Elope!


THE END

 

I had an epiphany this week.

 

It all started last Wednesday. Fiancé and I had a rather intense argument about wedding issues and all the drama surrounding it.

For some reason, people just don’t get it. When an RSVP says “Adult Only Reception”, what does that mean? To a normal person, that means the RSVP card is not for you and your children. It’s for you and another adult to attend. So, if this is in fact what “Adult Only Reception” means, please tell me why people are calling and telling my fiancé that they have to bring their children? And please tell me why he is NOT putting his foot down and telling them “ok”.


As you can imagine, frustration was in the AIR! The argument was intense because we had already discussed how we were going to handle people’s response regarding no children. It’s not that we don’t like kids or think that absolutely no children should be there. In fact, there will be about 10 kids there. Our son, the flower girls, a few of the bridal parties’ kids and a few immediate nieces and nephews. Due to our family dynamics, we had to make exceptions. And I am absolutely ok with that. However, we decided that this was it! If we would have allowed everyone to bring children, it would have been about 40 kids at our reception and at over $40 a person, I’m just not willing to spend that amount on a child.

On to my epiphany -I know that no matter what, I want to MARRY this man. I am not willing to let any of this wedding drama interfere with our planning process. Or have us wasting time being upset at each other. No one is worth the argument that we had the other day.

We are in the LAST weeks of planning and I want us to ENJOY this road to marriage. I just cannot allow this to be a stressful time for us.

So, rather people RSVP for more than we invited, people call and tell us they are bringing their children, bridal party not handling their tuxedo’s, hair, nails or any wedding related business – I don’t care.


 As long as I have my dress, fiancé has his and our son’s tuxedo and the preacher is there, we will be getting married and not letting all this other mess worry us.