I had an epiphany this week.
It all started last Wednesday. Fiancé and I had a rather intense argument about wedding issues and all the drama surrounding it.
For some reason, people just don’t get it. When an RSVP says “Adult Only Reception”, what does that mean? To a normal person, that means the RSVP card is not for you and your children. It’s for you and another adult to attend. So, if this is in fact what “Adult Only Reception” means, please tell me why people are calling and telling my fiancé that they have to bring their children? And please tell me why he is NOT putting his foot down and telling them “ok”.
As you can imagine, frustration was in the AIR! The argument was intense because we had already discussed how we were going to handle people’s response regarding no children. It’s not that we don’t like kids or think that absolutely no children should be there. In fact, there will be about 10 kids there. Our son, the flower girls, a few of the bridal parties’ kids and a few immediate nieces and nephews. Due to our family dynamics, we had to make exceptions. And I am absolutely ok with that. However, we decided that this was it! If we would have allowed everyone to bring children, it would have been about 40 kids at our reception and at over $40 a person, I’m just not willing to spend that amount on a child.
On to my epiphany -I know that no matter what, I want to MARRY this man. I am not willing to let any of this wedding drama interfere with our planning process. Or have us wasting time being upset at each other. No one is worth the argument that we had the other day.
We are in the LAST weeks of planning and I want us to ENJOY this road to marriage. I just cannot allow this to be a stressful time for us.
So, rather people RSVP for more than we invited, people call and tell us they are bringing their children, bridal party not handling their tuxedo’s, hair, nails or any wedding related business – I don’t care.
As long as I have my dress, fiancé has his and our son’s tuxedo and the preacher is there, we will be getting married and not letting all this other mess worry us.
Every church has their set of rules..right? At my church I..
1. Not allowed to have candles (so what the heck am I going to do for the untiy part?
2. Not allowed to have bare shoulders (Too bad I already purchased my dress before I knew this rule) - LOL
3. Have to pay $500 (Oh no..we have been member and tithe paying members at that, for over 20 years!
Anyway...I learned to get around these rules. Here are some exampled of how I am going to still be able to keep the unity tradition, and not have to have one of those church ladies running up to me and my bridesmaids with a cover up! LOL  Sand Ceremony instead of candles??
 HAWT bolero for me?? The Bride???
 Purple Chiffon Wraps..for the Bridesmaids???
PERFECT! Church Rules Problem's are SOLVED!
Dear knotties, I love you all, but becasue of all your amazing suggestions, PSA's, offers and creativity - I STAY BROKE! LOL If you don't what a knottie is, then you will once you get engaged and become a member of theknot.com! These women offer the most amazing advice, lend a ear when you have to vent, and often become great friends in real life! So anyway, because of these women, I have found so many vendors and great ideas! One of them - www.vistaprint.com. Once you order from them, they send you coupons to order free items! All you end up paying for is shipping! I have ordered business cards and T-shirts thus far. I am going to take a break before I go bankrupt. heehee! So here are a few shirts I was able to get for fiance and I. I just think they are so cute!
My bestfriend (also one of my MOH's) and I had a make-up trial together and I really had fun! We joked around and got pampered by our make-up artist. She did a great job. Check it out! Here is her blog: http://beautybecomesher.blogspot.com/Oh, and I want to mention that we had on $1 eye lashes! I was totally satisfied. :)
I am so excited about my flower girls! I always knew that I would follow the tradition of having a flower girl. I have a few young cousins that fit the perfect age of a flower girl, and so does their personalities. I have two young nieces, but they are too young to be flower girls. They are not even walking yet! I wish they were because they are beautiful perfect princesses.
So anyway, I had to have two! They are sisters and I adore them. I am in the process of picking out their dresses, but before I give you pictures of the front runners, let me give you a little history of "flower girls".
source:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wedding_ceremony_participants#Flower_girls
A flower girl is a participant in a wedding procession. Like ring bearers and page boys, flower girls are usually members of the bride's or groom's extended family, but may also be friends.[20]Typically, the flower girl walks in front of the bride during an entrance processional. She may spread flower petals on the floor before the bride or carry a bouquet of flowers or thornless roses. Once the processional is over, a young flower girl will sit down with her parents. If the ceremony will not be particularly long, an older child may prefer to quietly stand at the altar with the other honor attendants.Because very young children are overwhelmed by the duties, and older girls may feel insulted by a "baby" role, the recommended age is between four and eight years of age,[21] or even older, if not offensive to the girl's feelings.There may be more than one flower girl, particularly if the bride has several young relatives to honor. This practice is more common at British royal weddings, at elaborate weddings modeled after royal weddings, or at Victorian-themed weddings.Historically, the clothing was provided by the families of the bride and groom, but most modern couples expect the parents of the flower girl to pay for her clothing and other expenses related to her participation.[20]Her male equivalent is the ringbearer or page boy. Often the ringbearer and the flower girl are made to look like a couple, and they may be dressed in miniature versions of the bride's and groom's clothes.
Here are some pictures of top runners:
I am excited about all that is getting done! I have just 2 months left! Whewww!
Remember my blue birdcage cardholder? Well..take a look below.  Yayy!! It's white!When I purchased it, it was blue.Because I loved it, I just had to buy it. I knew it could easily be painted. I had originally added that to my fiance's list of things to do. He took it to work and had it professionally painted. It's a beautiful pearl white! I love it. I added a little sign. Cuuute!
 I purchased a bracelet from a knottie and it arrived on a little pillow. So cute! She did an amazing job!
 My cake topper has arrived from Crafty Eddy. Now, it just needs to be blinged out! I purchased the rhinstones from ebay (below). Can't wait to see the final result :).
My cake lady had a fire and will not be able to make my cake. I am sad that this happened to her. Fires are TERRIBLE! I am also very disappointed because she is the bomb at what she does! (no punt intended). My guest will miss out on the amazing taste that all of her clients rave about.
I am being a whiney brat about this because I really wanted her as my cake vendor. Now I have to use my back up cake plan. BOOO!!!! But I hope everything is okay with her and her home. Prayers and vibes are being sent her way.
The END.
I had my make-up trial the other day. We had to rush through it because I had a wedding to attend. She used an airbrush machine for the foundation and shimmer for the cheeks. What we realized afterwards is that we need to use some type of pigment finish, get me some lashes and spice up my lips. We also decided that for the ceremony I will use more gold tones and for the reception change to purple. My mom and I aren't really satisfied with the turnout so I sshceduled another trial with her so that we can spend more time getting the professional bridal look that I want.
So here are pics of trial #1.Trial # 2 will be next week and I can't wait!  Before - not so hot..lol
 after..hot!
 Cute!
Paragraph. Throughout my planning process, I always knew that the ceremony decor at the church wasn't high on my list of priorities. I guess my belief is that if you are on a budget, than the ceremony decor should be minimal. I care about the reception decor since this is where most of the time will be spent! However, my stepmom has really been down my back about the church looking beautiful :) Her and my dad were married just about 10 years ago, at the exact same church. I had never seen the church decorated as beautiful as it was. She just wants to recreate the same vision for me. I can appreciate that :) I have been researching and googling different ideas. I have posted a few.  Gladious flowers are very pretty! They are simple, elgant and VERY affordable. Below are glass cylinders with candles and flower petals. Very romantic. Check out www.fiftyflowers.com for bulk flowers and petals. I plan to purchase 12,000 rose petals for $199.99.
Yes folks, that's right! I only have 87 days to go. Right now I am in beauty mode. How am I going to wear my hair? Up? Down? A mixture of both? Do I add extensions? Or wear my own hair? DO I want my hair to stay black? Or do I want to add a little color for drama? It's so many ways to choose from! I have selected a few styles that I really like. Help a sista decide?
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